Everyone knows that there are men idiots out there like HIMYM's Barney Stinson who give women backhanded compliments with the explicit intention of chipping away at their self-esteem to make it easier to get them into bed. You are not one of them. But perhaps you are the kind of man who wants to give a woman a compliment but is worried that she'll get offended and isn't really sure what is or isn't appropriate to say anymore. Or maybe you want to be better at communicating with women but don't know how. Or maybe you've grown up in a chauvinistic culture that systematically demeans women and you've heard men say all of the things on this list and never thought about what their implications are or how a woman might infer them. We're not here to point fingers or lay blame. If you're reading this article, that means you want to be better, which is awesome. So here's a list of things that women—especially the ones who would likely identify as feminists—are sick and tired of hearing.